• drbickham

Rebooting For Success

Earlier this year, my wife and I had the brilliant idea to start up a business.  “It’ll be great,” we thought.  “We’ll be able to stop working for other people.  We’ll be able to spend more time with the children and each other.  We’ll be financially free!”

So off we went to work on the business.  I put everything I had into it.  I went to work, then came home and went back to work.  My wife spent her weekends inputting information into our computerized filing system and developing new systems.  She literally spent almost all of her off time doing this, the same way I spent hours of my time after work making phone calls and working around two very busy toddlers to get this thing done.

After a while, it became clear that the things we were doing were not really helpful to us, our relationship, or our family.  We argued about how we should do things.  I wasn’t spending much time with my family when I got off work because I was making phone calls.  Even at night, my wife would often fall asleep watching videos associated with business, a clear no-no for any marriage.

After a while I distanced myself from the business, feeling like it was ‘just another job’.  I lost my luster for it.  I just really didn’t want to do it anymore, at least not the way we were doing it.

I began to ponder what had happened.  When things first started I was absolutely gung-ho for the business.  My wife had come to me with the suggestion and I saw an opportunity so I made the proverbial leap.  However, in doing so, I made a few critical mistakes.

First and foremost, I lost sight of my own dream.  This business was my wife’s idea, something she always wanted to do; it was not mine.  And although there is nothing wrong with helping another person get to their dreams, it is still important to not lose sight of your own.  My dream has always been to write, and in jumping into this new venue I had no time to write.  The result was me becoming angry and resentful of the time the business took away from me, and of course not putting my full effort into the venue.

My second mistake was more detrimental than the first; I had no plan, no strategy for the success of the business.  Essentially, there was no order to any of it; we just did what we did with no clear organization or strategy in place.

The lesson I learned was this: if you want to be successful at anything you must plan for that success.  You must create a model, adhere to that model, and correct it when it’s not working.  And you must always be true to yourself.

With a model you can ensure that you will have time not only for the fulfillment of your dreams, but also for the management of the other equally important elements of your life.

It’s never too late for a reboot.

We’ll talk again…


© 2019 D. R. Bickham